It is tradition in many families to give new mom jewelry to mothers who have recently given birth. The tradition dictates that the husband and (hopefully) father of the child is the person responsible for this. My father did it and mummy received an eternity ring with her first child a watch with me and a gold locket with my younger brother. Unfortunately all of this jewelry was stolen in a robbery. I wish they had stolen my brother and left the jewelry, but no such luck!

These items together with charm bracelets, diamond earrings, Tiffany & Co items, are all great ideas if you are going to give your wife a gift of jewelry after she gives birth. This is not always expected, and although I thought something would be nice when I gave birth, I was blessed by being married to a particularly unromantic and unimaginative husband, who eventually became known as the "seed" donator. Although I must give him his due, my babies were both premature, so he had to rush out and buy all the furniture and stuff for the first baby.

Nowadays, some people refer to the gift of jewelry to a wife on the arrival of a new child, as a push present. It sounds yucky to me, like the harder you scream and the more you have to push, the bigger and more expensive the gift. I had two caesarians, maybe that why I got a pat on the back and a bunch of bananas?

Men who thank their wives for giving birth are doing the right thing. My daughter didn't want to start a family and her husband did, so she made sure she got her push present before she got pregnant. She didn't think she would have time to enjoy it after she gave birth.

Now to get back to the point, he wanted the baby sooner than she wanted to start a family, so he has to pay for it, right, I am right! This is where the push present comes in. In my daughter's case, she would have loved to push him for a high priced present, but she dared not, as she got her push present while he was still trying to get her to make a baby. She thought it might be a bit much to expect another $10 000 diamond so soon.

Now I am not saying that you should demand or expect to receive new mom jewelry, but if it is tradition in your family, perhaps it would be a good idea to receive it before you have the baby. This is just to make sure you get some pleasure out of your gift first. If you don't, then new dads, you are going to have to do some quick thinking.